Are you a psychotherapist ... I hope not because you have no empathy for what a broken heart is. No one asks for a pity party but they must process the hurt. It doesn't just go away because you demand to be more joyful. That blog was so uncompassionate... as to border on mockery. I hope you never have your heart broken so that you do not feel what a majority of people feel when they love someone deeply and it ends. Who knows why it ended but it did...just like losing a loved one when they pass there is a grieving process...obviously you have never experienced. To shout out for people who are processing their loss as a pity party is outrageous... Maybe some therapy would help you gain a more compassionate perspective on a topic you know nothing of. Get in touch with your feelings I say!! It is up to the person to decide how to deal with their sadness of loss, you telling them to get over it is meaningless. This is why we have therapists who listen and understand. If you were my friend... I would tell you to mind your own business. Ms. Genuine!

Ms. Ginuine,first wipe the snot off your nose. It seems to me, you are the one who is sooo unfocused with your life. We need encouragement in life and motivation from people who are stronger than we are. I didn't say not to have your pity party,if thats what you need. Iam saying don't pity if you think you are going to get them back And lets keep this in prospective. I am talking about love relationships between an man and a woman. I am not talking about death in any form or fashion, OK? Understand? I keep it as close to real aa I can. All that you saw was PITY PARTY in my blog,appearenly you live in Pityville. I am glad you are not my friend, you would probably cry more than me. I have had my hesrt broken, for the record, that's why I can speak with such authority on the subject. You don't want to admit it, but you know I am right. Everything I discribed about how we react is a fact for most of us. But each time your heart is broken you are suppose to get stronger. You are suppose to adjust a little bit better. You are suppose to know that He/she has gone on with their lives and you still tripping. He stops thinking about you, and you want to continue torturing yourself? We as women need empowerment and we have to draw from each other. The Bible says in Ecclesiates 3:1-8 To everything there is a season. "a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance, a time to embrace and a time for embracing. Go ahead read it for yourself. If it were not for people like me who can encourage others to know that they CAN do, we would all be like people like you who don't know WHAT to do. My unfriend did you know that you have the ability to heal yourself mentally? Why would you allow Satan to dictate your actions which obviously keep you depressed. My wisdom comes from experience. I used to go to therepy. Have you? Well I sure have. And I had to go every week because i felt I needed someone to give me pills and tell me I am depressed or bi-polar. When I left i still felt the same way or it just kept coming back to that same feeling. That is a therapist job. To listen and be sympathetic, and don't misunderstand me, if you feel that therapy is right for you PLEASE GO!!! But I am of a tougher breed and there are many out there just like me, who choose to live our lives to the fullest and not be held down by people like you saying "Keep crying,its alright" and you know WHY you are like you are? Its because misery loves company and you are obviously a miserable person. See I am going to do something for my friends. I am not going to just sit there and watch them cry their eyes out. I am going to bring something positive to their lives and help them to focus on who GOD made them to be. If we could all find our meaningful purpose in life, we would all know that weeping may endure for the night but JOY cometh in the morning. BUT YOU HAVE TO BELEIVE THAT. kisses and warmth...brendametoyer

I have read where you hit on a couple of topics and readers took offense personally. Since I have been reading these blogs I have noticed SOMETIMES the readers will jump on the person, more than explaining their side of the topic. "Calm Down", try to understand the other side and explain yours. Even if you take offense to someone's opinion, make sure you haven't misunderstood and if you understand correctly try to explain yourself without the "jump". You will just get the same "jump" in return and no accomplishment. Let's all practice what we preach!

bishopjoe35 Thank you for makiing that point. I write with a cloumnist state of mind and on my part I truly mean no harm to no one, but the world has to learn that we are not all of the same mind. Thank you again.