Hi BS01. Don't blame you for being pissed. I went thru a similar situation years ago with one of my sons while he attended B.I. Of course, I was angry as mother Tiger might be protecting her off spring. I loaded up a note pad with talking points and stuck to the script in speaking with the principal at the time. Known to shake a bush in the written arena in this case I went prepared to verbally engage the administration face to face. The school needs to know that YOU or your daughter are familiar with terms like the Professional Practices Commission in regards to holding teachers accountable in not only educating your child but providing a safe environment and that you are prepared to pursue other avenues if you do not receive satisfaction guaranteeing your grand child's safety. Not only for their physical well being but their emotional well being while your child or grandchild is in their school. Constant bullying can do as much or more harm to a child than even physical bullying.
Do not shy away from hinting that "you do not wish this situation to become adversarial in regards to protecting the child even if it means litigation."
You may need to show them your teeth, and maybe force them into a defensive posture. Let them know that you will not tolerate anything less than their (administration) commitment to proper resolution of the problem. You may request that the parents of the child inflicting the bullying of your child be present in an effort to correct the problem.
Don't let them intimidate you. They have a responsibility to make sure your child is in a safe environment both physically and emotionally. Pick up the phone and make an appt. with the principal to address your concerns and reassure your child that you are in their corner.
Support your child or grandchild in knowing that they can tell you what is bothering them and their is nothing wrong with them for coming to you and you love them and that 'you've got their back.'
Hope some of this helps. Good luck.
One more thing you may want to do is
request that your representative on the Board of Education be present at the meeting. This will demonstrate your legitimate concern and gives you one more quiver in your arsenal. You may need this if you encounter a stonewall type situation coming from the school.
It will help if you or your daughter is a registered voter but it is not a requirement. After all the school has to answer to them, and....these are elected officials that depend on votes to keep their job.
Maybe get some stats like this one: 4 out of 10 students drop out of high school as a result of being bullied. This is not an unserious event. It is very serious. And this one: 160,000 student stay home every day as a result of being scared of being bullied.
You seem to be a caring grand father and I am sure you do not wish your grand child to be part of that drop out statistic. Fight for her as you are doing and may need to continue to do so.
Last thought: take a pen and notepad with you. Ask them whether you know it or not what their name is and their title. Demonstrate this way and through your body language that you mean business and that you are going to DOCUMENT what is being said and done.
As you might can discern...I dislike Administrative bullies and bullies of any kind. But, like most bullies once they see you are willing to stand up to them they usually change their tune.
Jimmy, you're giving great advice! I for one don't want to hear about anymore shootings or suicides due to bullies.
Me either, Sheran. Thanks. As you know some of these picked on children decide to take matters into their own hands which leads them to get guns and take them to school in a desperate effort to stop the bullying. Any signs of bullying need to be taken seriously.
I hope things work out for BS01.